Playing Both Sides: The Unwritten Feminist Friendship Rulebook

How disagreement can help rewrite dyke futures.

A few weeks ago, I went to a salon hosted by my friend Koa Beck and her wife, Astrid, who’ve had years of successful gatherings in New York that they’ve re-upped upon relocating to L.A. It’s a fairly traditional format, where every month a new person selects a topic, reading, film, etc. to discuss with a curated group of friends and colleagues. We had e…